O is for Ouch. It really hurts to see someone relapse. It hurts that they are not willing to reach out for help and allow their drug of choice do the talking. We are not our disease. We can obtain from using one day at a time, following the spiritual program of recovery. Each person needs to find their own program. As my ex-boyfriend once shared with me, "I had a program, but I chose not to work it." He was in and out of the program for years, thankfully he made it back in and died sober.